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Why do we have relationships in the first place? Some relationships bring us happiness and companionship.

Other relationships bring us material benefits. Ultimately, relationships are meant to be rewarding.

However, there are times when relationships get in the way of other relationships, work and time alone. Any time spent on one relationship takes your time away from another relationship.

Some days, loneliness sets in. Other days, the phone seems to ring off the hook. What do you do when your relationships feel unmanageable?

What’s the most important thing in life?

How do we know which relationships have a greater priority over others? In the 21st century, many women are torn between their relationship with their children and their relationship with their bosses.

Many mothers and fathers feel that they must work out of necessity, but no guilt is worse than the guilt of having neglected a developing child.

Ranking your priorities

Though children and finances should always be top priorities, other priorities are difficult to rank. If enough money is being brought into the household, should the father really take that promotion that will take him far away from the home?

Should your friend, who is in the middle of a breakup, take priority over your other friends? What if all of your friends are going through breakups?

Other “obligations”

How many relationships do you have? Do you have a spouse? Do you have children? Do you have parents? Relatives? Friends? Acquaintances? A best friend? Clients? Let’s say you only have friends? Let’s say you have dozens of friends who are always calling and wanting to hang out? What do you do?

Reciprocity in Relationships

Any time you give to one relationship is time taken away from another relationship. Barring your relationship with your children, every relationship should have some type of mutual benefit.

If your friend is not willing to give the same attention and empathy as you to the relationship, this friend does not deserve as much of your time as a friend who shows a willingness to listen to you and understand the real you. Of course, if you expect this out of a relationship, you should also give the same back.

Be open about your feelings and your business

If you feel bogged down, let it be known. At the very least, you will see which of your friends are takers.

For many of your less self-centered friends, you will do them a favor by clarifying that you are not avoiding them but simply really short on time. Unless blinded by ego, your friends should understand that you cannot only be so many places at once.

Learn to say no

This is the most difficult step to follow for most people. None of us like to see the look of disappointment that stretches across a friend’s face. Even at a young age, we’ve always had a desire to please others. For this reason, we must practice saying it all the more.

The no word is a tricky one. Say it too much and you come across as incompetent and selfish. When saying the no word, remember that you are not saying no to the relationship or the other partner’s happiness. You are saying no to stress and exhaustion. You are saying yes to happiness and free time.

As you exercise, be it a brisk walk or a more serious gym work-out, endorphins are released and you start to feel good about yourself.

If you suffer from anxiety, and a lot of people do, then starting to do something more active could have real benefits.

Make a conscious effort to look on the positive side rather than thinking the worse of people and situations.

It is surprising how much a person’s negativity can be seen in their manner and behavior patterns. Other people will respond to your more upbeat outlook.

A well balanced and healthy diet including drinking lots of water will ensure a healthy glow, good skin and avoid the build up of bad waste products.

Avoid alcohol, tea and coffee, reduce sugar intake and cut down on the processed food that you consume. Being healthy on the inside is a good start to feeling more positive mentally.

Interrupted sleep patterns can create a cycle of tiredness and fatigue that can start to affect every part of our lives. Getting a good night’s sleep can sometimes be easy said than done.

Relaxation techniques can help, or try reading as this often helps you to drift off. Increasing exercise levels will make you feel physically exhausted so this will induce a deeper form of sleep.

Ensure that you are getting enough vitamins and if unsure consult your doctor or pharmacist. Changes may not happen overnight but it won’t be long before you start to notice a difference, others will notice it too and will be quick to let you know.

Today might feel unmanageable. This might be the day where all the projects and assignments seem to pile up.

You might look at this day with disdain and think about yesterday when you were unable to finish your work.

In fact, the reason why you’re so backlogged today is because of yesterday. Yesterday, all you could think about was the number of hoops you were supposed to jump through and the very thought of that paralyzed you with fear.

How can you make today go more smoothly than yesterday?

Do you have to do anything?

What are your deadlines? Do you absolutely have to finish your project today? Can you ask for an extension?

Are you so committed to finishing the project today because you want to impress your boss or client? Why not cut your workload in half and take the rest of the day off? Ask these questions before obsessing over a deadline.

Faster work = More Play

If you do get your work done, want to see a movie? Imagine relaxing and doing nothing. Keep in mind that the sooner you get your work done, the sooner you can go home.

Visualize

Before you even start your day, visualize your day. Think of your schedule and estimate the times at which you will finish your tasks. Imagine yourself completing these tasks.

Brainstorm

Instead of jumping into a task and hoping to get inspiration, try coming up with a lot of your ideas before you even get started. For each job that requires innovation or creativity, take advantage of the extra energy that you have after a night’s rest.

Outline – set milestones

Once you have brainstormed, create a mental outline. Have an idea of everything you plan on doing throughout the day. Set milestones at which you can feel proud and accomplished for finishing your work.

Break work into manageable chunks

Instead of seeing the project in its entirety, break your project up into steps that you can finish in under an hour.

Every hour, do not worry about whether or not you will finish the entire project as a whole. Instead, focus on whether or not you will finish the task of the hour. This makes a project seem far less overwhelming.

Do not get sidetracked

If you feel tempted to stray to Youtube, resist that temptation. Save fun diversions for your break time. Whenever you distract yourself, you break your flow of concentration.

Then, you will have to reestablish concentration. Each time you have to regain focus you will lose time. As you get behind, you will sabotage yourself by focusing on the fact that you are not done instead of focusing on getting done.

Take breaks – reward yourself

Tasks are much sweeter when you know that you get a nice cherry on the top. Plus, if you commit to holding off pleasurable activities until you finish your job, you will work faster.

Make work more fun

If possible, take tasks on that you enjoy over tasks that you don’t. Keep your office or home as pleasurable as possible without adding distractions. Music really helps stimulate your mind and increase pleasure as long as the music is not distracting. Find music that is soothing.

Once you start thinking in a more positive manner, happiness will naturally follow.

Sharing sadness does not lessen our feelings but spreading happiness is infectious.

If someone you know is feeling down, your upbeat attitude won’t make them feel worse, it will definitely lift their spirits.

The other thing to consider is that when you are feeling unhappy everything is a chore.

Letting bad things that happen in the world distract you, makes you restless, it seems like you never get anything done. It is human nature to be happy we contain the essence of joy in its purest form.

Henry Ford famously said “If you think you can or if you think you can’t, either way you’re right”. Fundamentally, it is our own thinking that can be the stumbling block to leading happy fulfilled lives.

We were born with the right to feel happy and everyone deserves happiness, it is not something that we have to earn.

Ultimately, being positive will not make the world an idyllic place to live in but it will make a difference to someone, somewhere. Decide what you value the most in life and what it is that means more to you than anything else. Try to experience those feelings by contributing to others, embrace them.

It was once said that “….The greatest lie in our culture is the one that says you are broken, incomplete and need something outside to give you happiness”. This is simply not true; it is okay to be happy.

—What You Should Do To Help Your Inner Self Grow

Who says that glee is costly? You too can buy it just for a bunch of pennies. To savor this extravaganza, you need to do nothing but to pamper and improve yourself.  The self improvement is always driven by personal care, which is considered as a crucial asset in the growth of an individual.

It does not only boosts up your confidence but it also brings breezes of joy to you.

Most importantly, personal maintenancedoesn’t demand for a big part of your bank balance; all it requires is your love for yourself and a bit of creativity.

If you are looking forward for some lucrative tips for a better lifestyle and interested in making yourself a better individual, just read  further.

1. Feel the Happiness and Try to be a Morning Person.

You need to think positively. Try to enjoy every jolly moment and recall care-free days of your childhood. You will certainly be revived. In this direction, you can also take some steps to make your routine better. Do you remember the old rhyme, “early to bed and early to rise, makes a man healthy wealthy and wise”? This is very important in today’s context too.

If you get-up early in the morning and take proper breakfast, you will be completely charged up to face any challenge throughout the entire day. If you are staying with some more people, you can also try to bring them with you on the breakfast table in the morning. This nice start of the day is going to make more impact. Also, it will open communication lines even after everyone’s busy schedule.

2. Follow the Routine.

If you do not like to prepare a routine and work in accordance with it, then you are surely missing some important aspects of a good life. Scheduling of tasks not only helps you maintain a note of accomplishment but it also helps in managing your tasks the next day.

3. Modesty is the best trait.

What you give, comes back to you. This is the same in the case of ‘humbleness.’ Your modesty can work wonders for you, as a humble person always receives the same behavior from others.

4. Show dedication.

Show dedication for whatever you are doing whether working in your office or applying methods for personal growth.

Follow these tips with dedication and focus; as they are going to bring miraculous effects.

5. Accept changes, which can’t be altered.

Life does not move in accordance with our wishes. Nevertheless, we make our best efforts to make it move the way we wanted it to but this is almost impossible because everything is not within our control.

Sometimes, we may have to suffer from many unwanted situations  but this does not force us to be soaked in the pool of tear and depression. Always remember, life is beautiful and think of it that way. An optimistic vision also helps in getting over a painful situation.

6. Mistakes are not sin.

Mistakes are committed by all. Instead of getting furious over these mistakes, try to accept it [How to handle mistakes]. This will not only improve your personal gratitude but also help you in lowering your anger quotient.

One must try to accept his or her mistakes as well as others’ and learn lessons from them. These lessons are supposed to be extremely important in terms of future endeavors.

7. Break the chain.

You are habituated to live life in a chain but you must break it as soon as possible. A chained lifestyle removes all the excitement and fun, which normally leaves one bored and irritated. For example, you have decided that you would never go for ‘pasta,’ as it is not your style.

Break the old chain and try it once without any initial notion. Trust will surely make you enjoy life. Hence, try to open up your life for all the new changes and welcome that. As others say it, there is nothing more constant in this world but change itself!

8. Who knows about tomorrow.

Do you know what is going to happen tomorrow? If not, then why to worry about tomorrow’s events.

Although, one should pretty much look further ahead, it is never wise to deal with what is going to happen. Concentrate on the gestalt – the here and now of everything, not tomorrow.

9. Pamper yourself.

If you have no affection for yourself then how would you be able to impose techniques of self improvement.

You must first learn to love yourselfbefore you can learn to love other individuals.

And you must love others so that you can also be loved by them. To move further, checkout the following tips below as these will assist you in taking care of the ‘self.’

• Take a break - Are you workaholic and believe in non-stop working for a growth-oriented professional life? Now, you must take a break, as this will diminish the stress level and also provides the much needed rest to your body[Manage stress]. A tip however is not to overdo rest. It is basically avoiding the extremes. Do not rest too much and do not reach the point of having none at all.
• Express yourself – If you want to share your thoughts to release the tension then why don’t you try to write something? Pen down all your feelings and emotions then see the level of relaxation you will get from it after wards. It is a fact that not all people are verbally expressive because some are reserved and the ‘shy’ type. But writing your thoughts on the paper is a good outlet of your feelings even without the presence of other individuals.
• Enjoy your hobby - You were a dancing freak or an intense singer prior to your early professional life. The sad thing is, these hobbies were far left behind in your race to get the best job available. Mind you, it is never too late. You can still enjoy your hobbies and do your work at the same time. You just need to arrange your schedule well. This will certainly bring a stream of poise to you.
• Gift yourself - You always give gifts to others but you hardly buy something for yourself. Now, try to buy something for your own personal usage. It can be anything whether a bunch of beautiful roses or a striking attire.
• Laugh out Loud - Laughter is considered therapeutic. It refreshes your mood and controls your wrinkles as well. No wonder, laughter yoga is becoming popular each day.
• Treat your body - After a continual work-schedule, your body needs some vital resource for rejuvenation. Take a body massage or aroma bath and spend few stress free hours in seclusion.
• Perform yoga on a daily basis - The old Indian meditation art is very effective in terms of tension release. A thirty-minute session every day is enough to revitalize and rejuvenate your senses.
• Go for periodical medical check-up – Establishing a periodic medical check-up regime does not only keeps you updated about your physical well being but it also helps you get pieces of advice from health care professionals. All of these efforts will in turn keep you away from most forms of ailments.

Overall, remember that a step taken for self-impoverishment is taken as a step towards good life. There are numerous ways, which can be followed for personal growth. And some of the best methods, I believe, you now know.